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Sparkling Isolation – Day 1

March 18, 2020 //  by Tommy Hensel//  Leave a Comment

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Solitude or solitary confinement?

For me, the energy of being alone has been the primary reality of my adult life. Except for an eight-year period where I was married (don’t ask), I have spent much of my adult life living alone. Dating has been a rare and infrequent experience, so I have learned the art and craft of living alone. Generally, I love it and I relish all the time I have to myself to cultivate my inner world.

Heck, I have even begun to build a brand around the energies of being alone. My personal website is “Table For One, Please” and my YouTube channel focuses almost entirely on solo dining, solo travel, and cooking for one. My social media channels are all about those things. So, being in quarantine during this current crisis should be just fine for me, right?

Wrong.

One of the facts of my life alone is that I always have the option to be social when I want to be. If being alone feels somehow disempowering to me in a moment, I can always go to the gym for a good workout or visit one of my favorite bars or restaurants or head downtown to the Art Institute. Chicago offers endless opportunities for socialization. Well – until now.

Yesterday, my job sent us all home and told us to work remotely, most likely until at least mid-April. So today is what I consider to be day #1 of solitary confinement. Ok, ok. Maybe that sounds dramatic. It’s just that I feel so helpless and isolated today. Most of my friends have families or at least pets living with them. I have none of that. I am totally and utterly alone in a physical sense.

Last night, I had a strange meltdown. I rarely feel myself spiraling into darkness, but last night I felt it happening. Luckily, I was brave enough to take a deep breath and write about it on Facebook. I was overwhelmed by the outpouring of love and support from my friends all over the world. Today, I had six different people call me to chat and make sure I was ok. I have friends who have set up Facetime dates for later in the week, and another who is going to doing a phone date with me tomorrow night while we both cook and drink wine together – virtually.

Today was bizarre. I worked from home for the first time not because I wanted to but because I had no choice. I was unfocused and never even got dressed. I managed to get some work done, but it was sporadic. Tonight, as I type this, I am feeling far better. Of course, the wine I have been drinking may be helping – but really, I think I needed to just have a day of being totally lost in order to stop, take a deep breath, and decide to refocus.

Here’s what I realized today. First, I cannot change what’s happening in the world. It’s not about me, not even remotely. I am just one of billions who are caught up in this strange, dystopian nightmare. Second, working from home is something I have often asked for and now I am finally getting to try it out. We will see how it goes. Third, I am reconnecting with friends I haven’t talked to in decades. This new reality is allowing me to remember just how many excuses I have made – for years – not to stay in touch. Now, when I have no other distractions, I realize that these friends have been there all along and we have never taken the time to reach out and connect by voice or video. The technology was always there, but we all have made excuses over and over. Now, we are all being reminded that we have the ability at any moment to reach out and reconnect.

Finally, I realize that I am only alone if I choose to be alone. Yes, I am ‘stuck’ in my apartment while the weather sucks (it’s cold and rainy), but I can get out when the weather improves. I can enjoy nature; I can focus on those things that are good in my life. I am grateful that I can sit here right now and type this post. So many people are more isolated than me, not even able to reach out like this.

So, I choose to think about a funny meme a friend sent me yesterday, knowing that I am a wine lover. It goes like this,

“It’s not really quarantine unless it comes from the Quarantine region of France. Otherwise it is just sparkling isolation.”

So, that’s my assessment of my Sparkling Isolation – Day 1.

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About Tommy Hensel

Tommy Hensel is the Director of the Fine and Performing Arts Center at Moraine Valley Community College (www.morainevalley.edu/fpac), a position he has held since January 2008. A native of Columbia, South Carolina, he has worked for more than 35 years as a professional actor, singer, stage manager, director, and arts presenter. He holds a B.A. in music and a B.A. in communication from Florida State University and an M.A. in theater from the University of South Carolina. He currently serves as Chair of the Illinois Presenters Network and is a board member of NAPAMA. He served as co-chair of the 2018 Arts Midwest Conference and currently sits on the professional development committees of both NAPAMA and Arts Midwest.

Prior to his move to Chicago, Tommy was an 11-year resident of the Seacoast region of New Hampshire where he served as Executive Director of the Rochester Opera House and sat on several non-profit arts boards. He has served on grant review panels for the New England Foundation for the Arts, New Hampshire Arts Council, Vermont Arts Council, and Illinois Arts Council. During his years as an arts presenter, he has also served on the juried showcase panels for the Arts Midwest Conference and Performing Arts Exchange.

Among his many theater credits, Hensel was the founding artistic director of the Harrisburg Shakespeare Festival (now part of the Gamut Theatre Group in PA). He has over 50 professional directing credits to his name and an extensive resumé as a theatrical performer and cabaret singer. In Chicago, he has a side "gig" as a restaurant reviewer for The Local Tourist website (http://chicago.thelocaltourist.com) and blogs about travel and food at https://www.tableforoneplease.com.

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